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Posts Tagged ‘family’

My First Post: What Is Right for Me Is Not Right for Everyone

Tuesday, July 21st, 2009

windswept_w1280_cw1280_ch1024_cx0_cy0Finally, my first post.  I did have to summon up some courage to write my thoughts down and post them on the web because it has been a long time since I journaled.  But I love the idea of sharing my life with friends and family.  Especially those who live far away or whom I don’t get to see very often.

I do want to let readers know that while my family and I are conventional in many ways, there are a few unconventional ideas and practices in parenting which we have (ie: extended breastfeeding, homeschooling).  We believe strongly in these unconventional practices for our family and often find ourselves having to defend and explain these ideas.  However, I want everyone to know that as much as we may believe in these, we do understand that they may not be right for everyone.   I support everyone in their choices when they are made in the best interest of their family.  I believe my children would turn out fine if they weren’t breastfed for longer than one year or homeschooled.    However, we felt that these things might increase our children’s mental/physical health and well-being as well as work well with the way our family is set-up, and so that is why we pursue them.  I am not a super-mom, and I go through many periods of self-doubt and questioning about my parenting as I am sure you all do.  I am just trying to do the best I can.

I look forward to writing and having you all follow along.   Hopefully, the antics of a stay-at-home, homeschooling mom will be enough to keep your interest!

grassROOTS church

Tuesday, July 14th, 2009

windswept_w1280_cw1280_ch1024_cx1280_cy0   John has been getting his religion patch for cub scouts by taking classes through a local church.  Last Sunday, we went there to watch him get his patch and to thank the people that taught him.

I’m not sure what I expected, but it was a very interesting experience.

grassROOTS church (as their myspace page refers to them) is very small and very informal.  After the cub scout ceremony where John got his badge and gave his thank-you card, they began the service with music.  The instructor for the cub scouts was the lead singer and guitar player.  A female singer and another guitar player backed him up.  I did not care for the music, but the singers and players did a good job with what they played and it felt very heartfelt.  But then the sermon began…

After the music, I was very uncomfortable.  I was worried that the sermon would be poorly worded (as I felt the music had been) or scary in some overly-evangelical or perhaps even cultish way.  I couldn’t have been more wrong.

Before I go on to describe the sermon I need to let you know a little about my background in Christianity.  I’ve been a Christian for as long as I can remember.  My Mom took me to mostly Lutheran type churches and my Grandparents took me to Baptist churches.  My Father taught religion classes and I probably get a lot of my overanalysis of sermons from him.  Usually, I’ll be quite critical of the average sermon saying that it was too easy or just a rehash of an idea that they’d presented before or I might observe that there was something possibly wrong or not thought out about it.  Not so in this case…

The sermon that we got to see last Sunday was personal, humble, made several points that seemed to strike a chord with both my wife and I, and was expressively and clearly delivered.  I have witnessed very few sermons that reach to such a high level and a handful that touch me personally.  We’re still committed to our church, but we are both glad such a gifted speaker and man of God is helping our community.

Father’s Day

Monday, June 22nd, 2009

windswept_w1280_cw1280_ch1024_cx2560_cy0I had just woken up on Father’s Day when my little toddler girl, Lain, came into the room.  Her beautiful smile and fun attitude were my first gifts.  Later, when I went downstairs my son, John F., gave me the greatest look that told me I was admired and appreciated.  Julia, my wife, wished me a great Father’s Day and had several surprises for me throughout the day.  My Mom came over later having already given me special gifts earlier.

I’m not one to brag; I don’t like to sound like I’m gloating and I don’t feel more special than others.  Just luckier.  But after a day like that I had to post to start out this family realm blog that I have the best family ever.  All my wildest dreams about my family life are satisfied and beyond.  I will appreciate these moments as best I can knowing that they are precious and incredibly rare.